Praised be Jesus and Mary!
Only a while ago, I got into an argument with someone I love deeply. I have offended him, but I didn’t immediately realized why. From his change of tone, I knew (I was sure) that I did something wrong. With haste and concern, I apologized. But, he was angry. He needed time to calm himself, but I was too paranoid and wanted him to accept my apology really fast because I hate it very much when we quarrel. I will skip the other details and jump to the ending – we accepted each other’s apology and reassured each other of our promises.
The short sharing above reminded me about the joy or pain in waiting. Whether it is joy or pain, I guess it depends on the situation.
There is the “joyful waiting”. ADVENT IS WAITING WITH JOYFUL HOPE.
St. Paul considers Abraham as our father in faith because he trusted that the promises of God would be fulfilled. …and that was a long wait! God promised that Sarah, at her old age, would bear a child. After 15 years, God REASSURED THEM OF HIS PROMISE. After another 10 years, their child Isaac was born.
We find that God surprises us with His grace, but we also find Him in experiences that call for PATIENT WAITING and TRUST.
Our culture today makes this difficult for us. It’s “instant” everywhere – instant noodles, instant ID photos, instant meals, instant social media updates, instant relief/cure, etc.!!! We struggle to take things slow.
Today, in our prayer, we are invited to SLOW DOWN and GET IN TOUCH with God in our hearts. Let us get in touch with the part of ourselves that is LONGING, HOPING, and TRUSTING.
But, on the other hand, there is the “painful waiting” like waiting for reconciliation when it comes to arguments between friends, couples, or family. There is always a proper timing. In my sharing above, I learned that it was wrong to rush. Reconciliation doesn’t come instantly out of nowhere. While it should not be delayed, there should be ample time for reflection and to understand each other.
Still, I firmly believe and agree with Pope Francis’ advice to parents. He said, “We all argue. We are all human. Even I have argued. Our life together always has its problems. It’s normal. I like one thing, and you like something else. At times we find ourselves in disagreements. … But there is a sort of magic formula to solve these disagreements – did you know that? Parents must NEVER TRY TO END THE DAY WITHOUT MAKING PEACE. If you carry anger and sadness inside of you at night, you will get up in the morning with a cold heart that won’t easily warm up.”
Have a blessed Advent!
Kristine G. Veneracion